Anyways it has been almost a month and Pooks no longer wants to nurse to sleep at bedtime. I nurse her for about 30 minutes+ while we read books then when I reach to turn off the lights I unlatch her and we are done. She snuggles into bed and acts like she will just go to sleep... but usually it takes another 10 minutes. First I sing to her and then I just lay there with her until she dozes off. It has made bedtime SO much less stressful. It was just too hard lying there for so long nursing her and fighting to stay awake.
We have made no progress with nightweaning. I attempted to get her to sleep in the twin bed, which she does fine until the second time she wakes up at night. Then it is miserable. I think we will start her out in there and only try to keep her there on the weekends, and let her slowly get used to it. She doesn't outright object but the past two nights she has been so restless.
More good news is that she seems to be staying asleep until Jeff and I go to bed. This is AMAZING! It is so nice not having to run up to her half way through a TV show. :)
I bought the "No Cry Sleep Solution for Toddlers" and I am finding it helpful. Most of the tips I already was aware of but it is motivating to read and I feel like now I can come up with a realistic plan.